Wanna deal with the real stumbling blocks to personal growth?

If I could offer one and only one piece of advice… just one remedy to catapult you forward in your personal growth it would be that your growth is entirely dependent on your attitude toward other people.

That’s right!

You thought you could lead a growing, expanding life without dealing with people.

grudge.pngPEOPLE. Yes those breathing, grieving, life enhancing, life sucking, can’t live with, can’t live without organisms that populate the same planet you do. In fact it sometimes seems like they’re taking up your particular piece of the planet.

And when it starts to feel like another person is using the air you want… it’s time to:


You heard me. Let it go. The only one that’s suffering from your grudge is YOU. (oh and your family)

That person who cut you off in traffic this morning…. let it go.
The comment about what your wearing…. let it go.
The invitation that you didn’t get… let it go.
If someone doesn’t comment on your blog… let it go.

Just remember… it’s really up to you.

If you want others to be gracious to you… be gracious to them. (oh I forgot, why would anyone need to be gracious to you?) *sarcasm intended*

If you want to really grow. Stop getting offended. Make it your life’s mission to become unoffendable (is that really a word?)

Give others the benefit of the doubt even when there is no doubt. You will be healthier.
Let things go rather than hanging on. You will find more freedom.

Do it… go ahead…

Let it Go!

What do you think? Let’s talk!

  • Tammy Lenski

    Hi there, Dave -

    Letting go is a great personal practice to develop. As you’ve suggested, carrying around the guy who cut us off in traffic, the woman who made a comment about wardrobe choice, the guy who cut the line in the movie queue…we get smaller from the weight of them all after a while!

    In my work with folks, I’ve found that some of us can just say to ourselves, some of the time, “Ah, let it go” and it can happen. And I’ve found that others of us just can’t…the mantra alone doesn’t work and so it’s not that simple. When I work with folks to figure out what it is that’s eating them about the thing that was said or done, the act of surfacing that can often be the catalyzing moment that then allows the letting go to happen.


  • DaveOlson


    You are so right. The point is somehow, someway we need to figure out a way to let things go. If we don’t we get small and we don’t grow. Either that or we end up somehow stuff back in time at the moment we got offended or upset.

    Thanks for dropping in. We haven’t talked in ages.

    Have and awesome day!

  • Lewis Green

    Nice post Dave and thanks for the shout out.

  • DaveOlson


    You are very welcome and thanks for stopping by.

  • Vivienne Quek

    What a coincidence ! My friend just asked me to ” let it go” about 6 hours back when I related some hiccups at the hospital where my mum was seeking treatment. He said fuming and getting upset were pointless as the result was a gloomier and angrier me.

    It’s true. Most people will not intentionally offend, inconvenient, upset or anger someone. I can file in a feedback and hopefully the management will fill in the gap in the service level process.

    I let it go.

  • DaveOlson


    Way to go. I’m sure you ended up feeling better after the initial pain. Keep on growing!

  • Lyman Reed

    Great post, Dave! I’ve got enough craziness going on in my head that I’ve created myself… the last thing I need is to let other people add to it. :mrgreen:


  • DaveOlson


    You raise an interesting point. If you’ve got enough spare space in your emotions, then go ahead… hang on to it. If not then Let It Go!

    Thanks for joining the conversation – fellow Junior Thought Leader. BTW… what does that mean? :smile:

  • Lyman Reed

    “Spare space in your emotions…” I wonder what that would be like? :?:

    I think we’re kind of like Junior Varsity… haven’t done quite enough to be one of the big boys yet. I know that Aaron added me because of a donation that I made back when the site was still being built, which was quite the nice surprise.

  • DaveOlson

    “Junior Varsity” … and donations. Now it’s starting to make sense. :eek: